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Winter Fetish Fair Fleamarket® 28

Friday - Sunday, January 26 - 28, 2007

General Information

• Org Chart
• Grid for Friday
• Grid for Saturday
• Grid for Sunday
• FAQ

What is NELA?

The New England Leather Alliance, or NELA, is an organization dedicated to making a safe place in the world for all SM/leather/fetish people, through education, advocacy, and charitable giving.

We are a diversse, pansexual group of adults who share a common interest in leather, SM or similar fetishes and who want to be active in building our community. We are women, men, and transgenered folk; heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual and queer; married, single and poly; young, old, and timeless. NELA is a 501(c)3 charitable organization, and all donations are tax exempt under the appropriate rules and regulations of IRS code.

What is NLA:I?

NELA is a regional chapter of the overarching international association now known as the National Leather Association: International (NLA:I). The statement of purpose of NLA:I is, in short, to support the leather community, provide education and public awareness, and fight for the rights of consenting adults to express their sexuality in safe, sane, and consensual manners.

Among other things, NLA:I provides resources to chapters like ours including educational videos, contact with national speakers, and networking opportunities with activists around the US and Canada.

When does NELA meet?

We sponsor different events each month, sometimes in a workshop or class, sometimes an outing or social event. We often bring guest speakers in from around the country; past meeting topcis have included Japanese rope bondage, bullwhip use, and making your own kinky toys. Our events are held in a number of locations in the Boston area, including the Boston Living Center. We strive for safe, community-inclusive venues. We try to be T-accessible, and easy to get to by car, as well. The event calendar is published in the Scarlet Leather, is availabile on our website (nelaonline.org) and can be checked at our hotline message number (617) 876-NELA (6352).

The NELA board of directors meets on the first Wednesday of each month in the greater Boston area. Every other board meeting is open to all NELA associates, for 2004, our open meetings will be held in January, March, May, July, September, and November. If you would like to attend a meeting, please email board@nelaonline.org to RSVP and to receive information on the meeting location and time.

What does NELA do?

We produce the Fetish Fair Fleamarket®, the largest leather/fetish event in New England, which happens in December and August and brings together a hundred top vendors and craftspeople from our local area and aroudn the country. Over the last decade, tens of thousands of people have attended the last FFFs to enjoy the unmatched opportunity to shop, attend workshops and meet people.

We sponsor and organize a Leather Contingent for Boston Pride, whereby we invite other groups of leather folk to march in the annual Pride parade in one loud section.

. We host other events, including educational workshops, special parties, demo nights, discussion groups and more. We teach a presentation on the difference between SM and abuse to law enforcement, medical professionals, and officers of the court.

NELA firmly believes in giving back to both its own community and to progressive allies. Our charitable fund supports the efforts of groups like the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom, GLAD (Gay and Lesbian Advocates and Defenders), the Boston Living Center (a community center for people with HIV and AIDS), The Network/La Red, the ACLU, many local Leather oriented groups, as well as individuals in our community fighting for the legal right to express their sexuality. Over the past six years we have given over $50,000 in charitable donations. We continue our efforts to educate the public and to fight for laws that protect our rights to love in the manner that we choose as consenting adults.

How do I contact NELA?

Send mail to:
NELA
PO Box 35728
Brighton, MA 02135-0075

Email us at: board@nelaonline.org

Check our website: nelaonline.org

Call our hotline: 617-876-NELA (6352)

• Program Book

 

Venue Information

Hotel Information: Sheraton Ferncroft, Danvers, MA $102 a night

 

Vendors

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Vendor List

VENDORS

4-Erotica Stores
Maryland
Contact: Anne Bryne
4-eroticastores.com
abryne@4-eroticastores.com
Glass dildos, remote control sex toys,
fantasy anal tails.

4Eva Fetish
Acton, MA
(978) 929-2536
4evafetish.com
info@4evafetish.com
Customcorsets, accessories, fine
leather clothing, Chinese silks, toys and
implements.

A Just Did Jimmy
(603) 352-4805
ajustdidjimmy.com
57frogwooddrive@webryders.net
Handmade wood paddles and woodhandled
flogwhips.

Abstract Photography
617-323-8244
abstractphotography.net
absphotog@aol.com
Photographic art, erotica, prints, BDSM
videos.

Achella
Contact: Beverly Gruetzenbach
605 Dena Drive
Canton, GA
(678) 493-2017
achella.com
achella@yahoo.com
Floggers, whip, paddles, cuff, collars and
much more.

Adult Novelty World, LLC
(877) 675-6273
adultnoveltyworld.com
Adult novelties and much more.

Art by Pencildragon
East Taunton, MA
(508) 821-3603
pencildragon.com
pencildragon@comcast.net
BDSM and Sci-Fi/Fantasy illustrations, prints
and greeting cards.

Athena’s by Holly Rowe
Contact: Holly Rowe
Massachusetts
(866) 887-TOYS
myspace.com/athenasbyholly
athenasbyholly@comcast.net
Home party and web sales – toys, bondage,
GLBT, adult accessories.

Big Head Studio
Contact: Scott Bonelli
Cranston, RI
(401) 465-6829
bigheadstudio.com
scott@bigheadstudio.com
Vintage violet wands and liquid latex.

Brute Force Leather
Harrisburg, PA
(877) 255-2198
bruteforceleather.com
bruteforce@bruteforceleather.com
Leather clothing and armor.

Bunswitcher’s Benches/Eva’s Evil
Implements
spankingbenches.com
bunswitcher@comcast.net
The Spankmeister: the world’s finest spanking
bench. Electric paddles, shock jocks, customengraved
paddles, fiddles, whips.

Butt Boy Music
buttboymusic.com
ButtBoy@buttboymusic.com
Original dungeon music CDs for BDSM
play.

Canes by Nyghtowl
Brooklyn, NY
canedbynyght@hotmail.com
Quality handmade rattan canes.

Canes4Pain.com
Fort Myers, FL
(239) 332-2303
canes4pain.com
WhypDancer@aol.com
Awesome rattan canes with lifetime
guarantee. Custom canes and jewelry.

Chainmail by Alyx
Hamden, CT
Chainmail jewelry and accessories.

Circlet Press
Cambridge, MA
(617) 864-0492
circlet.com
ctan@circlet.com
Publishers and booksellers of kinky and
erotic science fiction.

Color Me Red LLC
Contact: Robert Zebold
Keansburg, NJ
(973) 280-3677
colormered.com
color_mered_nj@hotmail.com
Handmade paddles, canes, BDSM toys,
dungeon furniture, dungeon design.

Coyote Whips
Fitchburg, MA
coyotewhips.com
fff@coyotewhips.com
Responsive, durable, attractive nylon
singletails.

Delicious Corsets
Contact: Psydde Delicious
Philadelphia, PA
(215) 413-0375
deliciouscorsets.com
email@deliciouscorsets.com
Custom and stock size corsets for women and
men.

DeTails Toys
Hackensack, NJ
(201) 825-1313
detailstoys.com
info@detailstoys.com
Floggers, whips, paddles, collars, vampire
gloves and mitts, etc.

Dilligaff Designs
Braintree, MA
dilligaffdesigns@aol.com
Handmade jewelry and perfumes.

Disruptive Publishing
Rockville, MD
olympiapress.com
service.blackmask@gmail.com
Smutty classic books in retro layout.

Dominance Loving Leather
swtchr2.com
swtchr2@aol.com
Quality leather toys, Evil Sticks and
paddles.

The Dragon’s Design
(603) 498-4979
thedragonsdesign@yahoo.com
Custom creations in leather and PVC;
por table and permanent dungeon
furniture.

The Dragon’s Lair
anddragonsohmy.com
dragonmessages@aol.com
T-shirts, sculpture, windstone, pocket dragons,
pillowcases, etc.

Dungeonware Co.
Bristol, CT
(860) 582-1300
dungeonware.com
dngnware@aol.com
Bondage and discipline clothing and
equipment.

Emarevt, Inc.
New Jersey
emarevttinc@aol.com
Hand-forged iron items, rose canes and fine
hardwood items.

The Fairie Tailor
Halifax, MA
(617) 851-2391
fairietailor@aol.com
Purses and capes, circlets, cowls, jester hats,
headbands, sashes, pirate beads.

Fetish Warehouse
fetishwarehouse.com
fetishwarehouse@yahoo.com
Leather pants, shirts, jocks, bondage toys and
restraints, floggers, whips, corsets and more.

La Fetishiste
lafetishiste.com
LaFetishiste@aol.com
Colorful, custom-crafted BDSM toys
(floggers, collars/cuffs) and bondage
straps.

The Foot Goddess: Fetish Pedicures
Jim Thorpe, PA
footgoddess.net
pedicures@footgoddess.net
Spa-quality fetish pedicures. Charming,
certified all-female staff.

For Your Nymphomation
Merrick, NY
foryournymphomation.com
contact@foryournymphomation.com
Discreet, locking storage cases for floggers,
adult toys and condoms.

Girdle Bound
girdlebound.com
girdlebound@girdlebound.com
Foundation garments in vintage styles.

Glamour Boutique
Auburn, MA
(508) 721-7800
glamourboutique.com
jwarrener@aol.com
Corsets, breastforms, petticoats, TG
clothing.

Intimatefashionz
intimatefashionz.com
info@intimatefashionz.com
Fetish wear, bondage
rope outfits, leather, vinyl,
skirts, tops, bottoms,
stockings, costumes,
rhinestones and more.

Jer’s Canes
Charlotte, NC
High-quality rattan
canes.

Kinkybooks.com
kinkybooks.com
patrick@kinkybooks.com
Books, books, books.

K.R.D.C. (kinkyropes.com)
Contact: Jack Elfrink
kinkyropes.com
info@kinkyropes.com
Center-marked bondage ropes and other roperelated
toys.

The Latex Store/Midnight Blue’s
Houston, TX
(713) 529-9213
TheLatexStore.com
MidnightBlues.net
MBEInternational@aol.com
Latex clothing, Singletail whips, gags, and
inflatable latex toys.

Leather by Danny
leatherbydanny.com
danny@leatherbydanny.com
Makers of the Grip Cuff ™, backbinders and
other unique toys and restraints.

The Leather Harvest
Manchester, CT
(860) 290-8981
leather-harvest.com
roy@leather-harvest.com
Merchants to the adult fetish and leather
communities.

Leathrworks
leathrworks.com
leathrworks@hotmail.com
Swivel-style floggers and dragon tails;
knives, swords and canes.

Locked In Steel
Contact: Jillian and Karen Davis
Nashua, NH
(603) 233-8299
lockedinsteel.com
info@lockedinsteel.com
Custom-made stainless steel collars, cuffs,
chastity belts and accessories.

Makikomi Ropeworks
Contact: Joe and Renee Cabaup
makikomiropeworks.com
sales@makikomiropeworks.com
Hand-spun jute ropes for bondage and
shibari; natural as well as hand-dyed and
custom color spins.

Marvelous Mayhem
Contact: Amy O’Brien
Stone Mountain, GA
(954) 682-4362
www.marvelousmayhem.com
amy@marvelousmayhem.com
Corsets for men and women in fabric
and leather. Fetish and BDSM custom
clothing.

The Mercantile
Contact: Connie Wilkins
Amherst, MA
(413) 549-1396
conniew@sff.net
Belly-dancing gear, clothing, gifts, amusements
and books.

Mercy Floggers
Bowdoinham, ME
(207) 373-8038
honeybee@gwi.net
Custom floggers for disabled and non-disabled
people; sensual sub-bee products.

Miko Exoticwear
Providence, RI
401-421-9787
mikoexoticwear.com
rhiannon@mikoexoticwear.com
Vibrators, electrosex, anal toys, lube, swarovski
crystal butt plugs and more.

MT Leather Products
Contact: Tim Halpin
Cincinnati, OH
(513) 661-8082
mtleather.com
admin@mtleather.com
Leather slings, aluminum sling stands, floggers,
whips, leather roses.

My Lady’s Toys
Contact: Olivia Jackson
msladystoys@yahoo.com
Fetishwear, toys, books,
DVDs, stuffed animals,
vibrators, canes, lubes.

Nancy’s Basement
Contact: Nancy E.
Absecon, NJ
(609) 485-0048
nancysbasement.com
nancy@nancysbasement.com
Spanking toys and
accessories, paddles,
canes, spanking bolsters,
aprons, jewelry.

Needle Play Design
Contact: Brian Wolfe
Mt. Holly, NJ
(609) 949-9151
needleplaydesign.com
needleplayco@aol.com
Custom embroidery of t-shirts, blankets,
hats and more.

Paddles NYC
New York, NY
(516) 578-3876
paddlesnyc.com
dadieslitlebrat@paddlesnyc.com
Wood & leather paddles, floggers,
schoolgirl cuffs, collars and novelties.
BDSM and spanking toys.

Paddles Radio
paddlesradio.com
paddlesradio@gmail.com
The #1 BDSM, D/s, Kink, Fetish, Adult
Streaming Internet Radio Station in the
world.

Paraphilia
Providence, RI
(401) 274-3700
club-paraphilia.com
info@clubparaphilia.com
Private social club and dungeon facility.

Passional Corsets & Passional Toys
Philadelphia, PA
(215) 829-4986
passional.net
passionalboutique.com
sales@passional.net
Corsets and fashion for him and her. Sex
toys, unique fetish and bondage toys.

Phetish Nation
phetishnation.com
phetishnation@comcast.net
Phetish Nation themed clothing, custom
engraved items.

Pig Daddy Productions
Contact: Tony Mason
Milford, NH
(603) 413-6461
pigdaddypro.com
mason@pigdaddypro.com
Gay adult DVDs

Pin-Up Revolution
pinuprevolution.com
nikita@pinuprevolution.com
Handmade journals, datebooks and glass
pendants with vintage fetish images.

Potted Fox Studios
Contact: Matt Sowers
vixen.pottedfox.com
pottedfox@pottedfox.com
Leather clothing and accessories.

Princess Kali
Somerville, MA
princesskali.com
princess@princesskali.com
Fem Domme DVDs, personal items, professional
domination sessions.

Purple Passion/DV8
New York, NY
(212) 807-0486
purplepassion.com
ppassion1@aol.com
Leather, latex and PVC clothing, corsets, toys
and boots.

The-PX
the-px.com
sales@the-px.com
Leather pants, vests, shirts, accessories,
cuffs, hats, caps, tees, jocks, etc.

Rachel’s Pleasures
Salem, NH
978-682-2900
rachelspleasures.com
info@rachelspleasures.com
Playful restraints for the adult
community.

Radiance Bound
radiancebound.com
collar@radiancebound.com
Exceptionally beautiful collars and cuffs.
Unique leather creations; feel treasured.

Rainbow Rope & Kinky Medical
Contact: Liz
(516) 608-4550
rainbowrope.com
kinkymedical.com
hello@rainbowrope.com
Soft, colored bondage rope, conditioned
hemp, medical paraphernalia and toys.

Rapture Floggers
Contact: Dena Eads
313-586-3977
rapturefloggers.com
sales@rapturefloggers.com
Stunning floggers and leathers of exceptional
quality at affordable prices.

The Realm’s Finest
Contact: Geoff
Peabody, MA
(978) 531-1485
therealmsfinest.com
info@therealmsfinest.com
Leather masks and chainmaille.

Reyen Design Studios
Contact: David and Dorita Reyen
(315) 635-8817
silkcloque.com
Hand-dyed and felted silk garments. Handcrafted
silver and gold body jewelry.

Rick Savage Videos
Contact: Rick Savage
Yonkers, NY
ricksavage.com
savage45@optonline.net
Produces movies and still images depicting
BDSM.

Rubber Masters
Portland, ME
(207) 892-4653
rubbermasters.com
randrdesigns@yahoo.com
Rubber floggers,
singletails, ballgags,
blindfolds, vests, kilts,
suspenders, harnesses,
CBT toys.

Rubio Leather
Contact: Carmen Morales
New York, NY
(212) 714-1201
rubioleather.com
carmen@rubioleather.com
Leather uniforms, pants, chaps, shirts,
shorts, jocks, jackets, harnesses and
custom orders.

Salty Light Enterprises
Northwood, NH
(603) 463-5622
saltylite.com
sdforge@gmail.com
Fine handmade hardwood paddles, collar
boxes and handforged blades.

The Shoe Guy
Contact: Joe Confort
Monroe Township, NJ
(732) 485-9833
theshoeguy.com
joe@theshoeguy.com
Largest selection of fetish shoes, boots
& designer wraps. Fantastic prices and
comfort. Sizes 5 to 14.

Silent Vampire’s Secret Crypt
New York
silentvampire.com
silentvampire@silentvampire.com
High-quality BDSM toys and devices at
low-cost prices.

Sterling
Contact: Ed
Needham Heights, MA
(781) 843-5112
newenglandcouples.com
bosbbs@beld.net
Swingers’ club; couples and women only.

Sunspot Designs
Contact: Columbine
Somerville, MA
sunspotdesigns.com
fire@sunspotdesigns.com
Goth, glam and Victorian jewelry and gifts.

Tandy Leather
East Hartford, CT
(800) 508-7605
tandyleather.com
hartford@tandyleather.com
Leather hardware, tools and knowledge to
make your own gear.

Toolworks Chicago
Willowbrook, IL
(708) 288-1379
toolworkschicago.com
toolworkschicago@hotmail.com
Polished metal items, floggers, paddles, canes,
butt plugs and dildos.

Torvea, LLC
torvea.com
torvea@hotmail.com
Leather goods, phallix glass, massage
products, adult novelties, candles and
chemicals.

The Toy Box
Providence, RI
toyboxshoponline.com
info@toyboxshoponline.com
Handmade vegan sex toys.

The Twisted Monk
Seattle, WA
twistedmonk.com
monk@twistedmonk.com
Makers of the world’s finest hemp
bondage rope.

Yrhared’s Xcentricities
Contact: Daniel Erickson
Albuquerque, NM
(505) 459-8733
corset.net
orders@xcentricities.com
Off-the-rack corsetry in sizes 0 – 32.

Zeugma Soap
Somerville, MA
zeugmasoap.com
flinch@gmail.com
Unusual and kinky hand made bath
products.

COMMUNITY TABLES

BASSN
boston.sexspirit.net
A group of people in the Boston area
interested in exploring connections between
sexuality and spirituality. We welcome
people of all spiritual paths, sexual
orientations, and genders to be present
in our group.

Bay State Marauders/Entre Nous
baytstatemarauders.org
Community group. Sells BDSM card game,
portion of proceeds to charity.

CUFSnorth
Contact: Renee Michaud Cabaup and Joe
Cabaup
cufsnorth.org
CUFSnorth@aol.com
Support, education and outreach organization.

Imperial Court
P.O. Box 51095
Boston, MA 02205
(617) 265-5122
imperialcourtofma.org
The Imperial Court is a 501(c)(3)
fundraising organization dedicated
to the raising money on behalf of
AIDS, Breast Cancer, and GLBT
charitable causes.

MOB
PO Box 39927
Cambridge, MA 02139
mobnewengland.org
info@mobnewengland.org
Social and play group for women and
transfolk (21+) who are interested in BDSM
and/or kink sexuality.

Ms. World Leather 2004
MSWL2004@aol.com
msworldleather2004.com
Organ Donors Save Lives! Info about
donation, transplantation, support
for recipients & donor families.

NEDS Info 738 Main Street #134
Waltham, MA 02451-0616
ne-ds.org
New England Dungeon Society is a pansexual
educational, support and social group.

The Network/La Red
PO Box 6011
Boston, MA 02114
(617) 695-0877
thenetworklared.org
info@thenetworklared.org
Free information about domestic violence in
the LBT and SM communities; information
about the difference between SM and abuse.

NLA-I Domestic Violence Project
nlaidvproject.us
MstressRen@aol.com
Educating the BDSM and vanilla communities
about the differences between consensual
BDSM and intimate partner violence.

Tiffany Club of New England
PO Box 540071
Waltham MA 02454-0071
tcne.org
info@tcne.org
Social club and support for cross-dressing and
transgendered persons.

TNG (The Next Generation)
missjack23@yahoo.com
boston-tng.org
New England area pansexual BDSM group for
individuals 18-36

Western Mass Power Exchange (WMPE)
(888) 642-0233
wmpe.org
wmpe@wmpe.org
An active group of like-minded individuals
and couples, 18 and up, who regularly gather
together in order to promote and expand the
overall awareness and understanding of the
BDSM lifestyle.

 

A welcome letter from the Con Chair:

All Hail the mighty volunteers ...

The New England Leather Alliance would like to extend its most heartfelt thanks to all of the volunteers. Without the hundreds (if not thousands) of dedicated hours, the Fetish Fair Fleamarket® would not happen. Thank you!

 

A welcome letter from the Organization:

Yes, Virginia, there is another Welcome Letter.

First, the good:

Greetings and salutations to everyone! Welcome to the New England Leather Alliance’s 28th Fetish Fair Fleamarket ™. Here we are in … where are we again? I’ve lost track. Oh, but wait, we’re in the “good” portion. Okay:

Is this your first Fetish Fair Fleamarket®? Well, whether it is your first , your tenth or your 28th, I hope you have a blast. We’re all here to be part of the magic that is the Flea. So browse, shop, revel in the atmosphere, learn something new, see an old friend, relax and ENJOY! Please know that NELA is thrilled you are here.

Now, the not good:

On behalf of the Board and volunteers, I have to say we are tired of moving around. Andover, Park Plaza, Sheraton, Mansfield, Danvers. Are we Nomads?

Is it so wrong to want to have a home and stay put for a while? Granted, there are various reasons for some of the departures. I’m guessing we would have stayed in Andover if the Ramada had not gone out of business. And the Sheraton could have been a permanent home if they had been able to offer January dates versus the week before Christmas. But, an industrial park in the middle of nowhere should have worked out. Thanks a lot, Mansfield.

Keep your fingers crossed. Tell the hotel staff how happy you are to be here. Tell Danvers and Middleton that we will bring in more than a million dollars in business over the weekend. We deserve an event free of antiquated zoning laws, small minded politicians and conservative zealots trying to tell us what we can and cannot do in private surroundings. Freedom of assembly is still a constitutional right. Perhaps this will be kinky Custer’s last stand.

Cheers,
Vivienne
Outgoing Chair (2001-2006)

 

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Rules

The New England Leather Alliance would like you to be aware of the following Rules of Conduct for the FFF:

Violation of any of these rules may be reason for ejection from event areas without refund.

Anyone breaking Massachusets' law or disrupting the event will be asked to leave the premises.

General Rules

1. No Smoking Inside. When smoking outside, please be courteous to others.
2. No Nudity. It's against the law!
3. No phototraphic or recording devices of any kind. Film will be confiscated and you will be asked to leave. Authorized photographers will be displaying badges.
4. You may briefly try out paddles, floggers on yourself only if you have permission from the vendor There will be no engaging of public scenes or public sex. Restrooms are considered public areas.
5. No food or driks in the vending area.

About Photograpy at the Flea...

Please note that there will be authorized photographers present at this event. You should be aware of them if you do not want to appear in any picture. All authorized photographers will have a badge that they will display at all times. Please notify Flea personnel if you see any unauthorized people taking photographs. Camera phones and video phones are prohibitied. Unauthorized people with photographic or recording devices of any kind will be aksed to leave, and the devices will be confiscated. If any authorized photographer asks you to pose for a photo and you agree, be sure to sign a photo release form. NELA will try to prevent all unauthorized photography and recordings, but remeember that you are at a public event and you are your own best protection. NELA will not be liable in the event that your picture is taken.

Transgender Etiquette

There are many Transgender people (Transgender, Transexual, Gender Queer, Cross dresser, Gender Variant and more) that attend the Fetish Fair Fleamarket® and/or Masquerade Ball.

People who are transgender and/or whose gender identity or expression does not conform to stereotypes of male or female often face discrimination and harassment, particularly when accessing public spaces, events, and restrooms. To be inclusive and improve the quality of life for Transgender people here, please read and act upon the following:

Restrooms

One way of acknowledging Transgender people’s needs is to both designate restrooms that are gender-neutral and also to allow people to use the genderdesignated restroom that they identify with. In public restrooms, many Transgender people face harassment that can lead to anything from deep discomfort to arrest or murder. Regardless of what restroom you are in, please let everyone use the restroom in peace. Each of us can decide for ourselves in which restroom we belong.

Pronouns

A person’s external appearance may not match their internal gender identity. You cannot always know the gender or sex of someone by their physical body, voice, appearance or mannerisms. It is best to ask, “What pronoun do you prefer?” or “How do you identify?” before using pronouns or gendered words. In group situations where you don’t have an opportunity to ask someone what words they prefer, try using gender-neutral phrases like “the person in the red shirt,” instead of “that woman or man.”

Privacy and respect for all participants

Please respect transgender people’s privacy and boundaries and do not ask unnecessary questions. If someone discloses they are transgender please do not “out” that person to other people. The transgender person may feel comfortable coming out to you, but may not wish to be out to other people.

Not all who attend the Fetish Fair Fleamarket® are out about their interest in SM. Please respect people’s privacy and do not out people you may meet or see here at the Fetish Fair Fleamarket® and/or Masquerade Ball.

This was adapted from The Taskforce - 2002 Portland Creating Change TM Host Committee Guidelines